EQ-101:Taking Control of Your Feelings and Emotions. (EVENT)

By Matt Perelstein

                          

 

                        Have you ever heard the term "Emotional Intelligence"?
 

When I first heard those words back in the late 90's, I jumped for joy! FINALLY, a clear, understandable, self-explanatory way to describe what we'd been teaching for many years... and which has been the bane of my existence! I was so emotionally clueless as a kid (painfully shy, anti-social, accident prone), that when I found out that I wasn't actually 'crazy', that I didn't have 'psychological disorders' (well, maybe a few), but really what I 'had' was a severe lack of Emotional Intelligence (EQ)!
 

(SIDE NOTE: It's called EQ, even tho' it should be EI. Why? 'cause EQ makes sense to people when distinguishing it from IQ. They often immediately understand the concept (esp. if you can point to the left-side of your head vs. the right side of your head... and that's what we need... to make it super-clear, super-simple, and super-practical.)
 

When I first took an EQ-based weekend workshop 27 years ago called Understanding Yourself and Others, I found that what was REALLY a mess inside of me was my Feelings. That was super GOOD NEWS to me because I found that I/we can LEARN how to deal with our feelings, how to identify, accept and manage our feelings (EQ), balance them with our thoughts (IQ) and then make more informed decisions on what to do, say and be. Now, I am no longer a 'victim' to my feelings.... they no longer own me, control me and manage me... I can understand, accept and manage them! That was wonderful news, to a lost, powerless guy!
 

1. Defining EQ (1990's)
First, we had to define the concepts... "what is eq" is googled over 2M times each month... so we'd know what we're talking about. It's about being Heart Smart, as well as Head Smart. It's about using our right-brain, as well as our left-brain. It's about giving a damn about ourselves, others and our environment. It's about knowing ourselves, and creating the best for ourselves, in a way that brings people closer and everyone wins!
 

Components of EQ, include:

• Self-Awareness
• Self-Management
• Social Awareness
• Relationship Skills
• Responsible Decision-Making

2. EQ Research and Results (2000's)
Since then, EQ has started to gain momentum. EQ results must be scientifically proven, evidence-based interventions with measurable, verifiable and reproducible results. Thus statistically accurate EQ assessment tools were created to 'prove' that EQ really works.

 

It all started for me, when I found that I/we can heal and replace so much of our fear, anger and sadness... so we can live freer, happier, more successful lives.
 

Then, we found that, although our schools have been IQ-focused, and EQ-resistant, by adding EQ skills training helps increase pro-social behaviours: attitude, cooperation, focus, kindness and empathy, while decreasing anti-social behaviours: fights, truancy, bullying, vandalism, weapons and drugs... and, shockingly, a huge 5-year meta-study of over 200 school districts that had adopted EQ found that the all-important test-scores even went up by over 11% (EQ can actually improve IQ!).
 

Next, we found that EQ is awesome for businesses and organizations -- customer service, teamwork, leadership, HR departments, employee engagement, even sales and marketing -- can all be improved with simple, inexpensive, intuitive EQ training and practice.
 

Now, EQ has been shown to help in a VAST array of human existence -- improving mental health, physical health, families, parenting, teaching, relationships, communications, etc. and reducing crime, addictions, violence, suicide, abuse and others... helping the good get better and diminishing the bad.
 

3. Putting EQ to Use / Competencies (2010's)
Now, we're working on making the EQ tools as practical and useful as possible. There are a powerful set of 8 measureable competencies that can be learned, and mastered, to dramatically improve our life experience.
 

Do you want to know more about you, to reach your greatest potential?
Got issues from your past that are effecting you today?

Want to be able to understand, manage and ENJOY you, and your life?

Learn EQ. It's free, it's natural, it's universal, it's unlimited, and it works! (and did I mention that it's free?! yeah, I know, I have money/deserving issues, but still... it's FREE... as much as we want, any time we want).

I contend that teaching our kids EQ/SEL is schools is the #1 best possible thing we can do for their future, and ours.
 

I contend that EQ can, and will, change, and maybe save, our world from hatred, violence, war and hunger.
 

I believe that EQ is a semi-magical aspect of life that we are just discovering, and enjoying.
 

I think we can reach our goal for the largest project ever attempted by man... to teach 1 Billion people EQ by the year 2039.
 

EQ for inner peace.
EQ for world peace.

EQRocks!

 

Matt, 27 years an EQ instructor, is in row 14 on the Practitioenrs' List

 

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