By Robert Stephenson
When I was a little boy I used to wish it would be Christmas Day everyday! Having all the family around, hanging out with older cousin, eating lots of lovely food, and of course the presents. Everyday would be magical, or so I thought back then, and as I grew older I realised that doing the same thing everyday, no matter how fantastic, would eventually loose its magic…
And this Valentines day got me thinking about this, this idea of having a great day everyday, sharing gifts and cards and chocolates with your loved one, and once again I had that thought about doing it everyday, and once again I thought that the magic would also disappear with the routine.
Or would it!
What would happen if you kept the magic alive? What would happen if you found a way to make each day a great day, each day a day full of love and giving and sharing?
As a coach I am always working with clients to create new possibilities, new ideas, to go beyond their comfort zone and think outside the box, in order to create the life they want, in order to make those dreams and goals a reality.
So what would happen if we thought outside of the box with Valentines Day, what would happen if we challenged ourselves to create Valentines Day everyday?
How about hiding cards for our partner in their bag before they go to work, or sending flowers randomly to their office or home. Lighting candles at dinner and dimming the lights, lovely music in the background. Or what if you came home early and cooked a wonderful dinner, so it’s all ready and waiting for when your partner arrived, with a bath already run full of oils and bubbles?
Now perhaps you already do this, or have had ideas like this in the past, and if you already do it, awesome, and if you’ve thought of it, that's great too. And I guess if you are not doing it, perhaps you might give it a go and see what happens, I wonder what might be holding you back? See how creating a special moment in the day for your partner impacts your relationship.
I wonder how we would feel, being treated in this way, with all that love going on, wouldn't it be wonderfully awesome :-)
And now I begin to think yeah, I could do that, and perhaps you think the same, and I then wonder, well what are all those wonderful things that my partner likes? Perhaps like me you know some of them, but not all! So what to do, well why not have a conversation, have a sit down with a notebook and ask your partner .
I think we often don't ask because we feel that we 'should' know all the answers and if we don't then that means we are not a good enough partner...I disagree, I think that a great partner finds out what you want and then finds ways to surprise you with it.
So in my quest for Valentines Day everyday, I say get a notebook, have a conversation, then find ways to share the love everyday doing something, however small or large, that will bring a loving smile to your partners face.
Give it a go, see how you get on, enjoy the sharing and I'll get back to you about my thoughts on having Christmas everyday :-)
And if you need any help in putting this together, organising your thinking, or finding your way forward, book an appointment with me at the clinic and let’s
make it happen together.
Robert is a Creative NLP Coach & Hypnotherapist and is in row 6 on our Practitioners' List
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